Where Are The Answers?
(29/30 of my blogging challenge)
A Tough Few Days
I have had a tough few days – the problem with having a psychopath as an ex is that every so often he rears his head (yes it is ugly) and does his damndest to exert control over as many aspects of my life as possible. The nearest I can align it to is being bullied, but I also understand that it is actually a lot more sinister, as well as a lot more unwelcome, even if it is only in my inbox.
I know that I have choices, and I am strong enough to both stand up to him, and take personal responsibility for my own little family, but it still sucks my personal energy out of me, and leaves me feeling sapped, and a little down in the doldrums.
Others Have Tough Days Too
These feelings are often expressed by many of my mentoring clients too. It would appear that how ever many self-help books we all read, how ever many wonderful blogs full of lists to enable us to breeakfree we immerse ourselves in, however positive our wonderful tribe are, we are still quite likely to find ourselves facing occaisional days when we feel emotionally like pants.
Rejection, not meeting a challenge, learnt behaviours, not being judged as good enough (often by ourselves), additive behaviours and substances, outside pressures, internal pressures, unmet desires, anger, FRUSTRATION…… These can all leave us feeling momentarily rubbish.
Where Are The Answers?
I like to think of myself as a bit of a personal development specialist, I’ve worked with hundreds of women to enable them to reconnect with their personal power and value since launhing WISH, but I have to be honest, hold my hands up in the air, and say that I cannot write a blog post to tell you where the answers to days when we feel like that are.
Each individual will find their answers in a different way, will find their way back to the sunshine via a different route, and as long as these days are temporary and few and far between, I do believe that’s the way it should be. However, what I can tell you is where the answers are not.
The Answers Are Not……
- In the fridge
- Among gossips
- At the bottom of the second wine bottle
- Easier to uncover when you hurt others
- Part of a long list of one night stands
- With your sports shoes left unused
- Waiting to be found by staring at your feet for hours on end
- In the ad break of the 10th soap opera on that night
- Within an argument with people you love
I’d love to hear what you do to help you cope with your down days, and why not share this post with your community to help them out too.